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Sleep, still

Night waking past the age it was supposed to stop.

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  • Four and still in our bed at 2am. Not looking for fixes. Just wanted to say it somewhere.

    Marcus · example note

  • Three years of broken nights and then it simply stopped, with no method involved. I have no advice, only that it ended.

    Ines · example note

  • The thing that helped was giving up on the idea that there was a version of this I was getting wrong.

    Jo · example note

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  • Four and still in our bed at 2am. Does this pass on its own?

    Ada · 5 weeks ago

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    • Three years of broken nights and then it stopped, with no method involved.

      Jo · 5 weeks ago

  • Does the 2am wake-up ever stop, or do we just get used to it?

    Kiyarash · 5 weeks ago

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    Research suggests that the intensity and frequency of attachment behaviors, like protesting when a caregiver leaves, change as children grow. While infants may protest departures, by around two years and nine months, most children attending nursery school become upset when their mother leaves. This indicates a shift in how children experience and express separation. The provided research does not directly address 2 am wake-ups, but it does show that the behaviors eliciting distress and the ways children cope with separation evolve over time. Some research also indicates that infants can recover from brief periods of negative affect, though the duration needed for full composure may vary.

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    1. 01 Attachment and Loss, Vol. 1- Attachment (2nd ed.)
    2. 02 The many faces of the Still Face Paradigm A review and meta analysis
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